PUA Openers

136 openers to start a conversation, from approaching in person to first messages on dating apps. Sorted by reader rating.

Girls Bump If you are in a crowded club and a girl bumps into you, say with a smile "excuse you! Risky ★ 4.8
The Test Me: Congratulations Her: What, why when? Me: You pass my first test - you look interesting which made me come here and start to talk to you. Direct ★ 3.9
Conversation Starter Depending on how high-status she sees herself and the rest of the environment, you may need a little bait to keep her attention. Situational ★ 4.3
2 Part Kiss Opener PUA: Hey guys, we’re having a debate and need a quick opinion on something. Opinion ★ 4.3
Are you shy? Are you guys shy? I’ve been standing here talking to my friend for like 5 minutes now and you still haven’t said ‘hi”. Situational ★ 4.3
Kino Openers The original list, credited to Tyler Durden, suggested pushing women, grabbing drinks out of their hands, hip checks, snapping bra straps and grabbing hats. Risky ★ 3.9
Confident Enough Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment? Good, so am I, you go first. Opener by Richard la Ruina Direct ★ 4.0
Forgetting Sarah Marshall (Only if you sense they're in a fun mood and have seen you in a fun mood.) "I find you both very sexually attractive and would love having intercourse with… Risky ★ 4.5
4 Campus Openers Openers that you can use to approach Girls on your College Campus or University. 1. Hey, I'm new here - could you show me where the library is?" Situational ★ 4.5
Valentines Day Openers Here is a bunch of field-tested openers you can only use on Valentine's Day! HEY… WHERE’S MY CARD?? “I didn’t get a card from you today yet? Situational ★ 5.0
Does Size Matters? Hey girls, lets me ask you something.. does size really matters? Girls: yes/no You: Interesting, because friend of mine has this huge, huge (pause) car, and he… Opinion ★ 5.0
The “G-String” Opener “Hey guys, you won’t believe what’s going on with a friend of mine and his girlfriend. Opinion ★ 5.0
Frisbee Opener (Mystery) Get a really cool Frisbee. Carry it with you in your bag. Convey to women that you are‘active’. That is an attractive quality. Indirect ★ 5.0
Who lies more Who lies more, men or women?' Tease her on what she says! When to use it Use it in a relaxed café, bar or party where the mood is already friendly and the… Direct ★ 3.8
Very Direct "You are so Damn sexy, (Pause) and I am going to get to know you (Pause) so tell me something about yourself (smile)" Delivery here is crucial. Direct ★ 3.7
Compliment Opener Compliment her on something she’s wearing or her hair or just style in general. Direct ★ 3.7
Dinosaurs Hey, what's your favorite dinosaur? (High energy, playful attitude, smile.) Her: "T-Rex" C'mon, that's lame. You only said that because you remember that name. Indirect ★ 4.0
Bank Robbery “Hey girls, are you good drivers? Me and Friend, are robbing bank across the street, and guess what (pause). Driver screwed us. Indirect ★ 4.0
Avoiding Someone (Foucault) So you know when you're at a party and someone you're avoiding shows up...and you have to look completely enthralled in conversation to keep them from talking… Indirect ★ 3.7
I Almost wore that The principle is very simple: Girls HATE showing up to a party wearing the same thing as other girls. Indirect ★ 3.5
Contagious Smile "Excuse me, do you think smiles are contagious?" and give her a big smile until she smiles back. "See I knew it they are! What's your name?" Direct ★ 3.5
Drug Dealer Used with a wing at night, with funny, just-got-done-laughing tonality. “Hey, I need your opinion on something… does my friend here look like a drug dealer?” Opinion ★ 4.0
4 Bookstore Openers If you are in a bookstore or library and see a beautiful woman, you can use these openers to approach her perfectly: 1. Situational ★ 4.0
Park Animals Hey this might sound like a silly question but if you could be an animal in the park what kind of animal would you be? Would you be a dog or a squirrel? Opinion ★ 4.0
The Rules In a bookstore reading The Rules. "Excuse me!" Her: "Yes?" You: "Have you heard of this book? The Rules? It is a book of dating tips for women. Opinion ★ 4.0
Seatlle Girlfriend deleted pictures “Hey guys, I need an opinion. My friend met this girl in Seattle, and they really hit it off. Opinion ★ 4.0
Fat Opener Does this (pen, etc.) make me fat? - by David DeAngelo Opinion ★ 4.0
The “80’s Dog” Opener (Style) “Hey guys, I need a quick opinion about something. My friend just got two dogs, a Pugdog, and a Beagle dog. Opinion ★ 4.0
Tinder Openers Here are a few tips, that you should keep in mind when opening girls on Tinder. Online ★ 3.2
Bored Girl C'mon it's not that bad, it's Weekend, the music is good, the dance floor is pumping, why aren't you up there having a good time? Indirect ★ 3.3
Greeting Walking in the store I waited for her to say it…… Her: “Hello” Seraf: Wow…..seriously? That was ALMOST the best greeting I’ve had all day! Direct ★ 3.2
Walking Energy Hey, I know this may seem unusual, but I saw you walking by and I just had to come up and tell you, that you walk with the most incredible energy! Direct ★ 3.2
The Both Answer Reply (Bumble) Beach during the day, mountains at night, and I'll argue with anyone who says you have to choose. What would you pick? Her Opening Move: Beach or mountains? Online
The Best Meal Reply (Bumble) A very average sandwich that I've decided was exceptional because I was starving. Your answer has to beat that, no pressure. Online
The Dream Trip Reply (Bumble) Right now: Lisbon, mostly for the pastries, partly for the trams. Your turn, and give me a reason that isn't 'the pictures look nice'. Online
The Fictional Place Reply (Bumble) Rivendell, with the Hogwarts kitchens as a close second. What's your pick, and what's the catch? Her Opening Move: Which fictional place would you live in? Online
The Karaoke Reply (Bumble) Bohemian Rhapsody, because I like to ruin it for everyone. What's yours, and do you commit to the choreography? Online
The Rate Your Day Reply (Bumble) Going well, a solid 7 out of 10 so far, with a chance of 9 if you tell me the best part of your day. Yours? Her first message: Hi, how's it going? Online
The Small Joy Reply (Bumble) A stranger held a door for me, then apologised for not holding it sooner. The bar is low and I'm easily pleased. What was yours? Online
The Story Trade Reply (Bumble) Short version: it was supposed to be a quick walk. Long version: it needs a better setting than a chat box. Online
The Thank You Reply (Bumble) That's the best review I've had all week, I'm going to frame it. What made you laugh, so I can do more of it? Her first message: Your profile made me laugh. Online
The Geek Out Trade Opener (Hinge) Your 'I geek out on' answer is [topic]. I'll listen to a five-minute pitch if you listen to mine: [your topic]. Online
The Ask For The Spot Opener (Hinge) You mention [place/restaurant/trail]. I'm going to be nearby soon. What should I order or do there, and what should I skip? Online
The Honest Answer Opener (Hinge) Honestly the most relatable thing I've read here today is your answer about [prompt topic]. Now I need to know what happened next. Online
The Pet Name Opener (Hinge) Another [dog/cat] person! House rule for this chat: you have to tell me [pet name]'s name and the story behind it. Use it on a photo with a pet. Online
The Five Minutes Later Opener (Hinge) The photo of you [where she is / what she does] looks like the start of a good story. What happened five minutes after it was taken? Online
The Origin Story Opener (Hinge) Your answer about [her prompt topic] made me curious: how did that start? I need the origin story. Online
The Profile Guess Opener (Hinge) Based on your profile, your typical Sunday is a farmers' market, a long run you pretend to enjoy, then a nap. How close am I? Online
The Two Truths and a Lie Opener (Hinge) On your two truths and a lie: I'm going with number two as the lie. If I'm right, you owe me the real story behind number three. Online
The Respectful Debate Opener (Hinge) On your unpopular opinion about [topic]: I disagree, but I'm open to being persuaded. You have three sentences. Online
The Take Her Recommendation Opener (Tinder) You mention [interest from her bio]. I'm a beginner. What's the one thing I should try first? I'll take it seriously and report back. Online
The Hot Take Opener (Tinder) Hot take: breakfast for dinner is the best meal of the day. Agree, or tell me why I'm wrong. Choose a harmless opinion that you can defend. Online
The Local Guide Opener (Tinder) Excuse me, I'm new to this match. Could you tell me where the best coffee in town is? I'll pay in bad jokes. Online
The Photo Backstory Opener (Tinder) I need the story behind your [detail from photo] photo. It looks like either a great memory or a very bad decision. Online
The Two Truths and a Lie Opener (Tinder) Two truths and a lie, go: I've never broken a bone, I can juggle three oranges, I once got lost in my own street. Pick the lie, then it's your turn. Online
The Compliment with a Twist Opener (Tinder) Your smile in the second photo is great. That was the last nice thing I'll say until you tell me what you were laughing at. Online
The Overthinking Opener (Tinder) I've been trying to write a clever first message for ten minutes. Draft three was a pun about your name. We are not talking about draft three. Online
The Weirdly Good At Opener (Tinder) Question I ask every match: what's something you're weirdly good at that has no use in real life? Mine is naming the capital of any country in three seconds. Online
The Window or Aisle Seat Opener (Tinder) Important question before we go any further: window seat or aisle seat? Your answer says more than your bio. Online
Karma Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do you believe in karma? If you don't know, Karma is a belief that whatever you do comes back to you: If you do something… Direct ★ 3.0
Introduction PUA: (grab unsuspecting SHB by the arm and point at a random dude) “OMG, that guy is PERFECT for you - let me introduce you!!” Risky ★ 3.0
Motorcycle I need a female opinion. My buddy (put hand on wingman's shoulder) wants go get a bike (motorcycle). Could he get more chicks with a crotch rocket or Harley? Opinion ★ 3.0
Cologne In a mall put on a different cologne on each wrist and ask girls which one smells better on you. Opinion
Mime You: I need an opinion on something. I'm thinking about quitting my job and becoming a mime. Risky
Mentos Go up to a girl with the BIGGEST CHEESIEST SMILE you can put on your face and just sit there and look at her smiling until she says, "What?" Risky
Fashion Openers “I love your style. You’ve got a great look - you must be very creative.” “I have to say - the way you’ve put your outfit together is so creative. Situational
Make Up You: Hey, can I ask you something? Her: Yes, sure. You: Should a guy wear makeup? Her: BLABLA You: Ok, well I have a friend who wears make up. Opinion ★ 3.0
Chick Flick You: Can I ask your opinion? Her: Yes, sure. You: I've been thinking about seeing movie (insert popular movie title) but my friends said I would be gay if I… Opinion ★ 3.0
Oral Sex "Hey girls, let me ask you something… (pause) Oral sex on the first date: yes or no?" A deliberately shocking question by Badboy. Direct ★ 3.0
13 Mixed Set Openers A mixed set is a set that has male as well as female members. Mixed sets are like groups mostly harder to game, because the leader (mostly a male member) will… Situational
Eyes Reading Hey let me look at your eyes, they say that you can tell everything by someone’s eyes. Indirect ★ 3.0
Shoes Opener Hey, they say you can tell the exact mood a girl is in by the length of the heel on her shoe. Indirect ★ 3.0
Female Roommates "I've been offered this sweet place in… I want to live there, but… I have to live with four girls. Like, four!" Opinion ★ 3.0
Annoying Girl Opener Hey I need a female opinion: What do you think would look better on me, this or this? Why, don't you like the other one? Opinion ★ 3.0
Twin Brothers Opener You’re at a party or a club and you meet twin brothers; they are absolutely identical, physically. ONE of them has the best hands of any guy you’ve ever met. Opinion
Expensive Clothes Hey guys, I need a female opinion... we were just at Saks today, and there were all these $600 collared tee-shirts. Opinion
Hi... are you friendly? m: Hi... are you friendly? hb: yeah i am (or something like that) m: good because i need your opinion on something. Opinion ★ 3.0
Twin brothers opener You're at a party or a club and you meet twin brothers; they are absolutely identical, physically. One of them has the best hands of any guy you've ever met. Opinion
The Apocalypse Opener (Original Edition) This is the old, original version of the Apocalypse Opener invented by Dr. Jekyll a few years ago. Risky ★ 3.0
Gas Station I’ve used this one at gas stations with some success. Occasionally, while you’re fuelingup your car, you’ll see a rather attractive woman doing so nearby. Situational ★ 2.9
Arrest Excuse me... You're not Susan Jensen, are you? (They usually say no, then offer their name. If they don't offer their name simply ask, "What's your name?" Risky ★ 2.9
Khaki Hey, guys, my friends and I were making fun of some frat boys, and got into anargument… "Is khaki a color or a fabric?” Opinion ★ 2.9
Tv Show This opener is outdated, but adaptable to current TV shows. You: Hey guys. (Pause here for a quick sec? try not to be in a rush) do you guys watch Friends? Opinion ★ 2.8
Love vs In Love Hey, I need your opinion on something real quick. My best friends girl broke up with him, when he asked for the reason, she told him that she loves him but she… Opinion ★ 2.9
Embarrassing Dare Hey, y'all are women. You'll probably have some great answers to this question I have. Indirect ★ 2.9
Never be a couple “Aww - you are soo cute.. but you make me SO SAD! Girl: WHY? Cos we could NEVER EVER be a couple! Girl: WHY ?? Because we are too similar.. Indirect ★ 2.8
Undies In a lingerie store, pick up a pair of boyshorts and a thong, then approach. "Hey, I need a female perspective here. Opinion ★ 2.8
Primp First, here is the frame you’re using for this opener: “You’re CUTE… but I’m going to make you a ROCKSTAR!” Situational ★ 2.8
No Job, Three Girlfriends You: Hey guys I'm trying to figure out something here and maybe you can help. See, I have this friend and he has no job and no apartment. Opinion ★ 2.8
Picture Opener (Mystery) Walk up to this 10 and say, “Hi. Could you do me a favor?” Wait for her to respond. Indirect ★ 2.8
The Apocalypse Opener (Tinder Edition) I posted the Original Version of the Apocalypse Opener before. However, Max and Jeffy from RSD made a video about another opener that is also called "The… Online ★ 2.8
New Pet Hey you guys, I need a female opinion... I want to get a pet, but I've got a bunch of criteria, so listen up. Opinion ★ 2.7
Mother's Day You: Hey, give me some advice: Tomorrow is mother's day and I need a present. What do you suggest? Opinion ★ 2.5
Mischievous Girl Walk by a hot girl who’s standing/sitting by herself or slightly away from her group of friends, and deliver this over the shoulder: You: “So why are you… Indirect ★ 2.5
6 Direct Openers Hey, What’s up? Where are you going? My name is x-name… How are you? You’re cute, are you friendly/interesting? You look like someone I’d like to meet. Direct ★ 2.5
Relax in a Park It's a great that this park is here… so easy to just let go, relax and forget about everything for awhile… what makes you feel that way? Opinion ★ 2.5
Good-Looking People This Opener works well if you’re not a “conventionally” good looking person and your target is quite good looking. Indirect ★ 2.8
Do I look gay? Preferably used with a wing and with a game-show host/party host attitude. "I need your honest opinion on something... do I look gay?" Opinion ★ 2.7
Dental Floss Hey guys, I need to get your opinion on something. It’s very important, and we need a woman’s perspective. It’s a matter of life and death.. Opinion ★ 2.0
Sunglasses Ask her, "So do you think I look better with my sunglasses on or off" Put them on "On" and then take them off "Off?" Opinion ★ 2.0
Expensive Shirts Hi girls, I need an opinion. I was at Saks today, and there were $600 shirts. If guys wear 6bill shirts like that, do you think its classy or try hard. Opinion ★ 2.0
Playa Pimp In a clothing store: Hold up some huge baggy pants or bling- "Wow this would look so awesome on me- yeah like playa pimp. You can be my biatch. Situational ★ 2.0
Ricki Lake Show Opener This one is used to wing your buddy, especially if he’s in a two-set and the obstacle needs to be kept occupied. Opinion ★ 2.0
Spells Opener “Do you think spells work?” Sometimes this will send the woman off on a long blab, but if the conversation needs to be kept going, the follow-up routine is:… Opinion ★ 2.0
Text Message Break-Up Is it OK to breakup with someone with a text message? (Make up a good back-story for this) - by Unknown Opinion ★ 2.0
David Bowie Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do girls think the rock star David Bowie is hot? Opinion ★ 2.0
Bi-Girl You: Hey guys, real quick, I need to ask an opinion. Can a straight guy date a bi girl? Girls: Blah Blah Blah. Opinion ★ 2.0
Breakup with a text message Is it OK to breakup with someone with a text message? (Then make up a good back-story for this) Opinion ★ 2.0
Palm Reading Tell a girl walking by: Hey, I noticed something interesting about you… Then don't tell her what it is but read her palm instead. Direct ★ 2.3
Make improvements of her look Example (Neg): "You would look much better, if you had red shoes, black ones to a black dress are a bit boring." Risky ★ 2.3
Thug Lovin "Hey guys, I'm doing a poll. Which do the ladies prefer… THUG LOVIN'? Or… GANGSTA LOVIN'?" Opinion ★ 2.5
Eighties Music Hey guys, help me out, I have this song stuck in my head ALL day and I can’t remember who sings it. Opinion ★ 2.0
City Move Hey - you guys from here? Cause I'm just visiting the city... thinking of living here, but you know the thing with big cities like this is they can be very… Indirect ★ 2.0
Magazine Grab a magazine, picture, newspaper, item, anything! Then just examine it, and turn toher and ask, "What do you think of how X looks?" or "Can you believe X!?" Indirect ★ 2.0
The Jealous Cat "My friend has been going out with a girl for about three months and they get along really well, they love each other heaps, but her cat hates him. Opinion ★ 2.0
Gift for my sister Hey, can you tell me where the JC Penney is at? Yeah, I'm looking for a gift for my littlesister. Actually, have you got any good ideas? - Opener by Unknown Indirect ★ 2.0
Picking up Chicks Just open with “Hi, we’re picking up chicks” than continue with something with "what are your names?". Risky ★ 2.0
Tattoo Opener Hey guys, would you ever get a Tattoo? Here’s the deal… my nineteen-year-old sister wants to get her boyfriends name tattooed on her shoulder. Opinion ★ 2.0
Which of you "Which of you guys gets hit on the most?" Opener by Richard la Ruina, it creates kind of competition between them. Risky ★ 2.3
Fashion Tip Just go up and tell them how they would look EVEN BETTER to you. “Wear your hair open”, “open that up one more button”, or just fix their clothes. Indirect ★ 2.4
Man Humor 1. Girls, check this out... I once knew a guy who could burp for 15 seconds!! Isn't that AWESOME?!! Risky ★ 1.0
Bubbles6969 Go up to your target… You: “hey I'm finally here! Traffic was horrendous! And I admit, it took me some time to decide on what shoes to wear.” Indirect ★ 2.0
You look familiar "You look familiar… did we have sex?" Opener by Richard La Ruina. Most women will give you the OMG face, roll their eyes or walk away. Risky ★ 2.0
Simsons Opener Hey do you ever watch The Simpsons? Why has Marge never left Homer, I mean she’s a sexy bitch and he’s a deadbeat who fucks up all the time. Opinion ★ 1.0
Are you rich? Open a set by asking “Which one of you is the richest?”. Then go into the whole “Ok, you get to be my sugarmama, then. Risky ★ 2.0
Polar Bear Me: “great big polar bear” Her: “What?” Me: “That's a great ice breaker don't you think?” Direct ★ 2.0
Arm Rests You: I want to show you a cool magic trick Then go into the middle of the two set. Then plant your arms on their shoulders like arm rests. Risky ★ 1.7
10 Gym Openers With a playful smile say – "You know, you kind of look like that lady from Ms Fitness- I can't remember her name - hey maybe you are her - wow this soooo cool…… Situational ★ 1.7
I'm lost I’m lost… I can’t find my friends and I’m scared… Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted… and you said ‘want to be… Direct ★ 1.7
Thoughtful Eyes You have thoughtful eyes. I think you have a lot going on inside here. (touch head) Opener by Richard la Ruina This is to be used on a girl standing around… Direct ★ 1.8
Drawing a blank Hi, I've been sitting her for the past ten minutes trying to think of some opening line to talk to you, but I'm drawing a blank. Direct ★ 1.8
Name Mnemonics HB: What’s your name? Style: I’m Style. HB: I’m Janet. This is Donna. And that’s Tony. Style: Okay…Janet.Donna.Tony. Indirect ★ 2.2
Book Store Opener (Mystery) Buy a bag of gummy worms and hide one in your hand the next time you target a woman in a bookstore while she reads a book. Indirect ★ 1.8
My Sister "I had to come over here and ask something quickly. Girls seem to know more about these things than we do… Okay I’m going get straight to the point… I’m REALLY… Opinion ★ 1.0
Blonde Hair Dying YOU: Guys.. get this.. I need an opinion. THEM: What??? YOU: I'm thinking of dying my hair, TOTALLY BLONDE. THEM: No.. yes... no.. Opinion ★ 1.0
Coffee Shop Hey does coffee really stain your teeth? My friend drinks this coffee through a straw to keep his teeth white. What do you think- should we be worried? Opinion ★ 1.3