Oral Sex

"Hey girls, let me ask you something… (pause) Oral sex on the first date: yes or no?"

A deliberately shocking question by Badboy. Within seconds you know whether a group is up for sexual banter. The original version followed up with an invented "Cambridge study" about couples who stayed together. Skip that: made-up facts get found out and make you look like a liar.

When to use it

Only with a group of adult women in a relaxed, flirty setting, for example late in the evening at a bar where the mood is already playful. Never with a woman on her own, at work or during the day. Many women will find it too much. If the faces freeze, laugh it off and change the topic. A milder version: "First kiss on the first date: yes or no?"

Follow-up

Give your own answer with a short, honest reason, then move on to something else. The opener has done its job once they start debating. Don't keep pushing the sexual angle.

Why it works

It's direct and polarizing, so people answer, and it shows you're relaxed about sex. The risk is just as big: it filters hard and puts off anyone who isn't in the mood.