PUAmoreThe Dream Trip Reply (Bumble)
Online Opener · First messages for Tinder, Hinge and Bumble.
Right now: Lisbon, mostly for the pastries, partly for the trams. Your turn, and give me a reason that isn’t ‘the pictures look nice’.
Her Opening Move: What’s your dream destination? Use a place you actually want to go to.
Why it works
Two reasons make your answer vivid, and the small challenge in the last line makes her think before replying. It leads to travel stories, which is one of the easiest ways to learn how someone sees the world.
Follow-up
- Good reason. Have you been yet, or is it still on the list?
- If she’s been there: Then I need a proper review. What should I do first?
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