Compliment Opener

Compliment her on something she’s wearing or her hair or just style in general. The trick is compliment openers are to never compliment her on her physical beauty.

You have an incredibly energy about you
That’s an incredible whatever accessory
I love the way you walk

When to use it

It works almost anywhere she is not in a hurry: a café, a shop, a queue, an event or a slow walk through the park. Look for something she obviously chose, such as a bag, a jacket, shoes or the way she moves. Say it once, calmly and without a big build-up. Skip it if she is on the phone or clearly rushing.

Follow-up

Turn the compliment into a question so she has something to answer: "Where did you find it?" or "Is there a story behind it?" Then add a small thought of your own instead of firing more questions. If she says thank you and looks away, smile and let her go. If she lights up and tells you more, you have reached the hook point, so introduce yourself.

Why it works

A compliment on a choice she made sounds like an observation, not a line, and it does not rate her body. It also gives her an easy topic that she knows best: her own taste. More examples are in Fashion Openers.