The Two Truths and a Lie Opener (Tinder)
Online Opener · First messages for Tinder, Hinge and Bumble.
Two truths and a lie, go: I’ve never broken a bone, I can juggle three oranges, I once got lost in my own street. Pick the lie, then it’s your turn.
Make the three statements small, harmless and a bit odd. Keep the lie believable.
Why it works
It is a game, so she has something easy to answer instead of a question she has to think about. Her guess shows what she assumes about you, and asking her to go next turns the chat into a shared activity.
Follow-up
- Ha, close. The lie was the oranges, I drop them every time. Your turn: three statements about you.
- If she plays: Number two is definitely the lie. Am I right, or do I owe you a drink for the wrong guess?
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