The Overthinking Opener (Tinder)

I’ve been trying to write a clever first message for ten minutes. Draft three was a pun about your name. We are not talking about draft three. How’s your week going?

Only use it if you are comfortable with a self-deprecating joke, and never as a copy-paste: the draft detail should be your own.

Why it works

Honest self-mockery lowers the pressure: it shows you are aware of how first messages usually go. The end is a normal, easy question, so the joke does not become the whole conversation.

Follow-up

• If she asks about draft three: It involved the word ‘swipe’ and a crime against grammar. Moving on.
• If she answers: Sounds like a week that deserves a good weekend. Any plans?