Abundance Mentality

Abundance Mentality refers to the mindset and subsequent behaviours associated with a man who has many girls and options in his life. Some of the most attractive set of behaviours a man can display are born from having an Abundance Mentality. Having an Abundance Mentality is the exact opposite of neediness – the least attractive quality. Those who act needy around girls are likely coming from a position of scarcity, in that they have no or limited options with girls and therefore act in unattractive ways around women. Here are the key characteristics and behaviours demonstrated by someone living and acting from a place of Abundance:

  • Freedom from outcome: A guy who gets girls doesn’t really care if it ‘works’ when he enters into an interaction with a girl. He knows he has other options, so if one particular girl is not interested, he is unaffected. He doesn’t try hard or chase the girl around, as he doesn’t have to. He has other options. Girls will detect this attitude and find it attractive. They are used to men vying for their attention so will recognise a guy who is free from the outcome of his actions as different from the rest. This is also known as ‘outcome independence’.
  • Self-amusement: Someone who has abundance or an abundant mindset will find picking up girls as just good fun. He will be able to find the funny side of all situations – good or bad. For guys living in scarcity, getting rejected or ‘blown out’ by a girl in a club can have negative consequences for that guys’ self-esteem and confidence and potentially ruin their night – ie, he was not outcome independent. A guy with abundance will find getting blown out hilarious, he’ll find his opener funny and won’t do things or say things to elicit laughter or a particular response from the girl but act in a way in which he himself finds amusing. Girls will detect this trait and identity this type of guy as fun and cool and will be attracted to this quality.
  • Being unavailable: A guy living in abundance simply does not have time to meet the demands of girls. He is busy. In fact, he’s probably busy with another girl. A guy living in scarcity will text a girl back immediately, be at her beck and call and generally be available all of the time. Eventually the girl will get bored of such lapdog behaviour. Girls like a challenge – a guy they can’t quite pin down. A guy living in abundance will forget to text back because he is too busy, he’ll cancel plans to do other things, he’ll be hanging with friends on the weekend or off doing something cool like travelling or indulging in a favourite pastime or hobby. In other words, he has a balanced life away from just girls (or one girl).

Even if you are not living in abundance with regards to girls, it is important to try and develop and work on these behaviours – fake it ’til you make it!. It should also be noted that adopting an Abundance Mentality to everything can be counter productive. For example, time is not an infinite source, so you must therefore treat time with a scarcity mindset. In other words, you must make the most of what little time you have to do the things and achieve the things you wish to. Acting as though time were an infinite resource at your disposal would lead to lazy, unmotivated actions and standards. This is not true of girls. There are more women on the planet than any guy could dream of meeting, so in this respect, adopting an abundance mentality is a positive thing and will help fuel and produce attractive behaviours and qualities.