PUAmoreOne Night Stand
- ONS
A single sexual encounter with no expectation of a relationship afterwards.
Contents · 3 sections
A one night stand is a sexual encounter that is both brief and casual in nature. Most commonly, this occurrence takes place at the end of a night out and with a stranger. Often the man and woman will meet each other in a bar or nightclub, and escalate things over time, resulting in sex. If this happens in the same night that you got to know her, it's called a Same Night Lay (SNL).
It is generally accepted that a one night stand (in contrast to a SNL) is exactly that – a one time thing. It is quite common for the man and woman to not see each other again after the sexual encounter. As such, it is not necessary to build rapport and comfort with the girl to the same extent as it would be were the intention to see her again and again. That said, the girl does need to feel comfortable in the moment and there has to be a lot of attraction going on for things to end up back in the bedroom so soon.
It is, however, perfectly possible to turn a ONS into an ongoing relationship of some form. If there was a good, natural chemistry between the couple, they could start to see each other regularly for casual fun or even a monogamous long term relationship.
Example
Two people talk all evening at a friend's party and both want to go home together. Before they do, she says: "Just so we're clear, I'm not looking for anything serious." He answers: "Same here, I'm happy with just tonight." In the morning they part on friendly terms. Neither is surprised.
What to do
- Be honest about what you want, and do not promise more than you mean.
- Make sure both of you are sober enough to decide, and that both clearly want it. Anyone can say stop at any moment.
- Use protection against pregnancy and STIs.
- For safety, tell a friend where you are going, especially when you do not know the person well.
- End kindly: a thank you, a clear goodbye, no disappearing act.
Where it fits
A one night stand is often the result of a fuck close. If it happens the day you meet, it is a same night lay. If one of you hopes for more, say so early: ongoing casual contact is a fuck buddy arrangement, and a committed one an LTR.
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