Kino Escalation

Kino, (Kino Escalation) simply refers to physical touch between a man and a woman, and is a derivative of the word ‘kinesthesia’. In order to successfully complete a seduction (ie, sex), physical contact between a man and woman will obviously have to occur. The concept behind Kino Escalation is that, by gradually and progressively increasing both the amount and type of physical contact with the girl, the more comfortable and receptive she will be about participating in more intimate acts further down the line. The time frame for these physical progressions can vary greatly. They may take place over a few hours (or even minutes), such as in a bar or club, or they may take place over a period of several days or weeks (such as on dates or Day 2’s).

Whilst gradually building up the level of physical touch between yourself and a girl is not always necessary in order to achieve sex, it is a more socially intelligent and calibrated way of going about things. This is because it limits or helps to break down the potentially awkward barrier of a more forward physical gesture, such as going in for the kiss or putting your arm around the girl in the cinema. Imagine you have been on a date or two with a girl. You haven’t made any physical contact with her – no hugging, kissing, hand holding, and there has been minimal ‘accidental’ touch, such as knees or legs touching while sat down, as you have been sat opposite her at the table. If you are to suddenly go for the kiss, it will feel clumsy and awkward, as the leap from absolutely nothing (no touching), to a full-on act (kissing, for example), is too large. You want to avoid the ‘romantic’ Front Door Kiss Scene, often depicted in the movies. In reality, if no physical progression has been made throughout a date for example, an obvious tension or pressure – usually quite awkward – can be felt by both you and the girl. However, if throughout a date you have been progressively and slowly developing Kino by holding hands, sitting close to each other or other such physical gestures/acts, the jump from that to kissing is a small, natural progression, free of the awkward social tension associated with the Front Door Kiss Scene.

To avoid any awkwardness and to create naturally progressive Kino, it is best to initiate physical contact as soon as possible. A good way to do this in a club, for example, is to open physically – via hugging a girl, taking her by the hand or by dancing with her (holding her hips, grinding etc…). On dates or Day 2’s, some good ways to build touch and comfort are to give a quick hug and kiss on the cheek (French style) when greeting her, sitting next to each other in the pub or coffee house – which allows legs to touch naturally, and makes physical playfulness such as pushing or hitting easier – and hand holding. As always, it is important not to be physically aggressive or inappropriate when initiating Kino, and if she indicates to you at any time that she is uncomfortable (through either her body language or verbally), you must back off immediately.

Conversely, over escalating with Kino can actually lead to flaking or losing the girl. While you want to remove awkward tension from your interactions, escalating Kino too much and too quickly can kill sexual tension. Some of the tension you and the girl will feel will be excitement about what will happen next. By over escalating or by escalating too quickly, you release all the sexual tension and pressure, which decreases the level of excitement. It’s like being told how a movie you really wanted to see ends before you’ve had a chance to watch it. Similarly, a ‘too much, too fast’ approach to Kino on dates (or more specifically, on first dates), can make the girl feel slutty and rushed, and will either lead to strong LMR (Last Minute Resistance) or her flaking on a second date.