PUAmoreDemonstrate Higher Value
- DHV
Demonstration of Higher Value: a story, behaviour or social cue that shows qualities such as status, humour or leadership without bragging.
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A DHV is a story or action conducted by a man to make himself appear or come across as a person of high status, thus making himself immediately more desirable to a female. There are many different ways for a guy to demonstrate that he is a high-value man.
DHV'ing can be entirely natural or produced via a routine or scripted story. Using a routine requires telling an interesting story about yourself or an experience whilst dropping in subtle DHV's. The main DHV's are pre-selection and leadership. Pre-selection is where a guy can visibly attract other girls and make girls 'want' him. If a girl can see that a guy can get girls, this makes them immediately more attractive to other girls in the environment. Leadership qualities demonstrate high levels of confidence and authority, which are attractive characteristics for a female as it naturally generates attraction through male-female polarity and are the second biggest DHV.
It is possible to DHV without the use of canned material. Often, a good, solid, direct opener will DHV as it displays attractive behaviours like confidence, humour and social intelligence. The last way to DHV is to actually have a known status. This can only really be accomplished by people of fame, such as rock stars, actors or sportsmen as society already deems them 'high value'.
Example
She asks what you do. A weak answer lists your job title and salary. A DHV shows who you are:
"I design board games. Last week a nine-year-old beat me at my own game and demanded a rematch. I'm still recovering."
It tells her you have a creative job, a sense of humour and the confidence to laugh at yourself, without a single boast.
How to demonstrate value
- Show, don't tell: let a short story carry the quality, instead of announcing it.
- Lead: suggest where to go next and make small decisions with ease.
- Be at ease with other people. A relaxed friendly group around you is natural social proof.
- Stay playful. Humour fits well with a cocky & funny attitude.
Common mistakes
Bragging, name-dropping and made-up stories backfire, because they signal that you need approval. A DHV also only works if it is true: the best base is a life you are proud of (see Pillars of self-development). Memorised stories can help, but they are no substitute for real interest in her; see canned material.
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