PUAmoreRizz
Definition
Slang for charm and flirting skill: the ability to attract and win over a romantic interest with confidence and wit.
Contents · 3 sections
Rizz is slang for charisma, specifically the ability to charm someone and flirt successfully. Someone with “rizz” is confident, easy to talk to and good at making another person feel interested. It is usually understood as a short form of “charisma”, and Oxford University Press picked it as its word of the year for 2023.
“Rizz up” means to flirt with someone, and “no rizz” describes a person who struggles to. Slang like this changes quickly, but the core meaning has stayed the same.
What rizz looks like
- Relaxed body language and steady eye contact.
- Playful humour, such as the cocky and funny banter pickup coaches have taught for years.
- Real curiosity about the other person, not a rehearsed script.
- No visible neediness and no panic when it goes badly.
It’s the same attraction that pickup coaches described long before the word existed. What changed is the vocabulary.
Example
Her: I almost didn’t come out tonight.
You: Then I’m glad your plans fell through. Now you owe me a good story.
Light, warm, and a little bold, without pressure.
How to build it
- Practise. Rizz isn’t an inborn talent. Most of it comes from talking to many people and getting past approach anxiety.
- Be curious. Ask follow-up questions, and remember what she says.
- Develop your own style. Borrowed lines sound borrowed. Use openers as a starting point, then put them in your own words.
- Respect the response. Real rizz includes noticing when someone isn’t interested and letting it go gracefully.
On dating apps, the same idea applies to your messages. Our Tinder pick-up lines and Tinder openers show what a good first message looks like.
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- Disqualifier A disqualifier is a playful remark that jokingly "rules you out" as a match, or her as one for you.
- Mystery Method The Mystery Method is a pickup system created by the Canadian Erik von Markovik, who goes by the name Mystery. It is also called M3.
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- Outer Game Outer game is everything other people can see and hear: how you look, dress and move, your voice, your body language, what you say and how…
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- Inner Game Inner game is the mental side of dating: your confidence, your beliefs about yourself and women, your self-image and the way you handle…
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- Cold Approach A cold approach means starting a conversation with a stranger, with no earlier contact, no introduction and no shared context such as…
- Daygame Daygame (also written day game) means meeting and approaching women during the day: on the street, in parks, shops, cafés, libraries or on…
- Peacocking Peacocking means wearing something eye-catching on purpose, for example an unusual hat, a bold scarf or striking jewellery, so that people…
- Hot Babe HB stands for Hot Babe (or sometimes Hunny Bunny) and refers to an attractive women.
- Banter Banter is playful back-and-forth talk: light teasing, jokes and quick comebacks that both people enjoy.
- Cold Reading Cold reading is a way of making statements about a person that seem highly personal but are in fact general or based on clues you can see.
- Disqualifier A disqualifier is a playful remark that jokingly "rules you out" as a match, or her as one for you.
- Negging Negging means giving a woman a backhanded compliment or a mild put-down, so that she feels slightly unsure and starts to look for your…
- Push-Pull Push-pull means alternating between closeness and playful distance in a conversation: a compliment or warm moment (the "pull"), followed by…
- Day 2 Day 2 is the second meeting with a woman after you met her for the first time, for example at a bar, in the street or through friends.
- One Night Stand A one night stand is a sexual encounter that is both brief and casual in nature.
- Sex Drive High Sex Drive (Libido) refers to a man's physiological and psychological urge or desire to indulge in sexual activity with a woman.
- Kiss Close A Kiss Close or KC is when a man successfully kisses a girl he is attempting to seduce.
- Ejecting / Premature Ejectulation Premature Ejectulation, or 'Pre-Me' is the term given to a guy who exits (or, 'ejects') from an interaction with a girl much too soon.
- Mystery Method The Mystery Method is a pickup system created by the Canadian Erik von Markovik, who goes by the name Mystery. It is also called M3.
- Real Social Dynamics Real Social Dynamics, usually shortened to RSD, is a dating-coaching company based in Los Angeles.
- Red Pill "Red pill" is internet slang for waking up to an uncomfortable truth. It comes from the film "The Matrix"
- Long Term Relationship A long term relationship "LTR" is typically when a man and woman pledge exclusivity to one another.
- Fuck Buddy A Fuck Buddy (FB) is a girl that a man enjoys frequent but casual sex with no real desire for making the relationship monogamous or…
- Friend Zone The 'Friend Zone' refers to a situation whereby a man has found himself stuck in a platonic, non-sexual relationship with her a girl he is…
- Let's Just Be Friend “Let's Just Be Friends” is something that a girl will say to a guy with whom she has no interest in pursuing a sexual relationship.
- Flake A 'flake' is the term given to a girl who does not get back in touch with you after either the initial meeting or an exchange of messages.
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- Breadcrumbing Breadcrumbing means dropping small bits of attention, just enough to keep someone hoping, without ever following through.
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- Gaslighting Gaslighting means getting another person to doubt their own memory, judgement or feelings.