The idea that Sweden is a tall, blonde, beautiful paradise is about as common as the idea that Iraq is not a great place to holiday right now. Having lived in Sweden for half a year now I feel a little qualified to provide a little advice on the seduction of you’re average Swedish Girl. I guess a genuine Swede would be able to add few things, but these are the views of an observer in the shoes of a tourist. Be prepared, along the way we are going to chop a few branches off the Swedish myth tree.
Appearance
The Internet seems obsessed with the idea that Sweden is full of tall busty women with yellow blonde hair who like to pose in bikinis in the snow. As curious as this particular fetish is, it is also untrue. Many Swedish women are blonde, and many are attractive, but there are plenty of brunettes (not to mention immigrant Swedes) and attractive does not mean that the people are supermodels. Don’t get me wrong, Swedish girls are hotter than in a lot of other countries, but it is more that there are a lot of girls whose looks are above average. ‘Cute’ is a word I use a lot in Sweden. They also wrap up warm for winter; tight fitting jeans and scarves are very common. So forget what a meme on the Internet told you because walking down the street in Stockholm is not borderline porn.
Attitude
Swedish people could be described by some as a little shy. Many of them have told me that they like to describe themselves as lagom, which means moderate or enough, and that should tell you a lot about the national psyche. Striking up a conversation with strangers can be anything from weird to terrifying for a Swede, so day game is best done subtly. They are however very polite and friendly once you make them feel comfortable, so the effort you put in to getting to know them pays off. This works in flirting too, as I have often found that the first few hours seem cold, only to then have the girl become highly sexual. It’s as though there is some unspoken rule that a couple of hours of investment means you can go crazy. On that note, Swedish women are not particularly ‘easy’, but they are definitely not prudish either. Sweden generally has a very cool concept of feminism, which means that women are very empowered but not obnoxious or unfeminine. Embrace this attitude because it allows Swedish women to be very open and fun-loving, erasing a lot of slut shaming that occurs in other countries.
Approaching
The approach that worked the best for me was to get to know a girl over a day or two, but with her knowing that I was attracted to her sexually. Tinder worked well here (there are plenty of hot Swedes on tinder), as we could have friendly conversation, but the fact was always in her mind that we had liked each other and were looking to do more than talk. Back at home I am usually a fan of being more forward, but here I found it prudent to just keep demonstrating value, flirting with other girls, and letting the tension build between you. Patience will get you the prize. Day game (as I mentioned before) can be difficult due to the general Swedish aversion to foreign strangers, the fact that for half the year outdoor spaces are chilly, and the fact that Swedes seem to like moving through public with a purpose (exercise or going places). Always approach with an excuse (if you are foreign, it never fails to ask where a street is, mispronounce the street name for extra credibility). Club game is good fun, especially in student towns, though be warned that a lot of night clubs close at two in the morning, so you have a shorter time frame.
Sex
Be very honest about the fact that you are not looking for a relationship. Swedes appear to value family time, and many of them have committed relationships (even children) at a young age. The actual sex is pretty spectacular (judging from a sample size of thirteen Swedish girls). All of the girls I slept with had had previous partners (even the one who said she had a boring sex life), and most of them were very good at using their hips. You will almost always be having sex in an apartment scenario so be prepared for the possibility of unhappy neighbors. Also wear a condom. I shouldn’t need to tell you that in any case, but Swedish women have relatively high rates of sexually transmitted infections.
Swedish Girls – Basic Tips
- It’s not clichéd in Sweden to ask a girl for coffee. Fika, the Swedish traditional coffee break(s) is practiced by pretty much everyone.
- If you are daygaming, have an excuse for approaching and then sidestep into flirting.
- Learn something from the dress sense of Swedish men. They know how to stay warm and get laid.
- Build more comfort than you usually would, it’s a cultural difference.
- Indoor conversations last longer than outdoor ones during winter.
- Use Condoms.
Enjoy it too. Sweden is a great country and Swedes are delightful people.