Studies have shown that nearly 70% of break ups are initiated by women and only 50% are honest about the reasons why they left. Well, we’re here to enlighten you about the most common reasons why couples break up. It’s always important to reflect on your relationship and check how strong it is. Maybe there are some reasons your girlfriend or boyfriend could break up with you soon? Of course it’s impossible to avoid every single one of them but make sure you don’t catch yourself doing more than 10 of these mistakes. If that’s the case it’s not too late, be grateful that you are aware of them know and try to improve your relationship behavior before your partner has a reason to break up with you.
Not spending enough time together
Research has shown that one of the major reasons that relationships fail is due to lack of time spent together. A woman loves her “couple time”. Now I’m not talking about smothering you, I’m speaking about a balance. Who doesn’t love down time with their spouses on a weekend, holiday or after work? So if you don’t spend time with her, she will believe you’re not interested in being in the relationship with her. This also includes:
Always being late
Girls hate the guys who come late on a date, it feels like you don’t appreciate them enough to be on time.
Being a keyboard boyfriend
Some guys don’t utter a word in the face to face conversation but text a lot on the phone. Don’t be a keyboard boyfriend. Have a verbal chat more than text.
Women like ambitious men, but spending all the time at work and not with her is actually a turn-off. Life is not meant just to pay bills. Don’t spend the time, but actually, enjoy the life with your girlfriend.
Always putting your friends first
When your friends are more important to you and you are spending most of the free time with them and not with your girl, you are ringing the alarm bell to the relationship yourself.
Founder and CEO of Balanced Life Academy Group, David Oragui, advised in his article “Why is Communication Important in a Relationship” that “Communication is extremely important for couples because it acts as the judge jury who has the final say on whether your relationship lives or dies.” Let that marinate for a bit, are you a good communicator?
Don’t just throw your ideas at her. Listen what she has to say. Not listening and all talking is a sign of disrespect.
Not showing interest in the conversation
While in Conversation, girls hate guys who don’t ask questions and shows they are not following up her stories.
Not looking her in the eyes
While talking to your girl, maintain the eye contact. Don’t just stare in her eyes. But, show that you are interested in what she’s saying.
Not being interested in her life
Ask your girlfriend about her day, how she’s been, what’s going on etc. be someone with whom she can share everything.
Not being able to compromise
Opposites attract but when a couple isn’t able to discuss crucial matters, it’ll do the relationship more harm than good. It might be your careers are at different places or she wants to adopt and you want kids or you want to live in the south but she’s die-hard on the west. If you are not able to communicate and find compromise as a solution, your relationship will eventually break apart.
This goes further than merely being broke. This speaks to your ambition, your drive as a manly figure. While your girlfriend may understand that the economy can be rough, what might not sit well with many is if you’re not able to be there for her financially even if it’s just to split the bill. One matchmaking service stated that over 95% of women answered “yes” when asked if income in important.
Not being ambitious
Your financial stability is a reflection of your ambition. Women love ambitious men even if they’re keen on independence.
For most women money plays a role. Get a good job, a decent lifestyle before you get into a relationship and get dumped because you don’t have enough to survive.
Financially depending on her
Start earning and don’t get dependent on girl’s finances.
Most people improve from year to year because life is a constant development, especially when your young. If your girlfriend improved and you’re at the same level as you where 2 years ago, she will get the feeling that both of you are grown apart. In other words she is telling you that is grown above you and can’t see you as equal anymore.
Being too moody
Don’t be romantic today, arrogant tomorrow, caring the other day then again romantic just because it’s your mood. Being moody is too amateur.
Being an addict
Don’t be a drug addict or an alcoholic. These lead to domestic violence and eventually a break up. What’s worse? You might end up in prison.
Not taking care of yourself
A well-groomed man is always a turn on. Girls like guys who take care of their attire
Bad body odor is the red signal for the next meeting or any meeting!
Bad breath is equally credited as bad body odor.
Repeating old mistakes
An important part of getting over someone is to learn from your mistakes, don’t repeat them in your present relationship.
Too much bragging
Don’t brag about your money or what you have achieved. Share your stories, but don’t show off.
Not knowing how be attractive
You should always improve yourself and know how to attract women.
Yes, as much as we’d like to think that sex is not as important as other aspects of a relationship, it is still very important. Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist advised that couples who have bad sex eventually become discouraged about their future together. It’s not just the physical component of sex that turns your girlfriend away. It’s the sexual communication or lack thereof that really grinds her chain. She might be willing to try if you’re willing to listen.
Pressure her to have sex
Don’t force for the intercourse every day. If she started feeling that she is there just to fulfill your physical needs then consider it over!
– How to turn her on with sexting
– How to spice up your sex life
Being bad in bed
There’s one place where you have the chance to wash away all her tension of the day and make your girlfriend comfortable and that’s the bedroom. If you are not good in bed, you are in big trouble. These articles will help you:
– How to last longer in the bedroom
– How to increase your sex drive
Once a woman is with you then you and your lower head are her territory. You let another woman get a piece of that, you damage her claim. It will feel as if you weren’t really hers to begin with. Jason Fierstein, MA, LPC Counsellor for couples advised cheating may translate to mean that the person being cheated on is flawed or unwanted and many can’t shake the idea that they’ve been cheated on. What’s even worse if you lie about it when all evidence clearly points to you. Cheating and lying combo is not a good look for a man a woman could possibly spend her life with. She can never look at you the same, never trust you and might even lose respect for you.
Don’t hide anything from your girl unless you are a CIA secret agent. Girls usually suspect a wrongdoing when men hide something from them. It’s not what men in a healthy relationship do.
It is a dead end when she finds out that you are lying to her or lied in the past. There’s no way out. If she was already double-minded about the relation, then by lying you just gave your girlfriend the reason to break-up.
At the end of it, it all comes down to security. She needs to feel secure in the relationship and that all the attributes of an awesome couple are firmly in place. You connect, you communicate, you understand each other, and you make plans together. There’s trust, faithfulness, love, respect, support. You inspire each other, you grow together. With all those things in place, she’ll feel utmost secure. She won’t break up if she feels that you truly are partners for life.
Unreliability and untrustworthiness leads to break-ups sooner than one can expect. Be someone whom she can trust with anything.
Treating her different in front of your friends
Guys usually become very casual in front of their friends, act differently and treat their girl differently. Guys, you have to maintain the decorum of your relationship in front of your friends too. Girls hate when guys treat them differently in front of their friends.
Fighting too often
If there’s fighting more than loving in your relationship she might say “it’s over” anytime soon.
Blaming her all the time
Don’t blame your girlfriend for everything wrong happening in your life.
Criticizing her too often
Don’t criticize her in all her decisions. Try to look from her perspective.
Asking for an apology will only do the good for you in the relationship. So, don’t be a guy who is not sorry for anything.
Be it emotional, physical, verbal, if you hurt her like this then she’ll take her battle scars and go. She’s a human being just like you and deserves respect for her thoughts, her body and her emotions. Damage that and the relationship will forever be broken. Steven Stosny, Ph.D. advised in physchologytoday.com that an emotionally abusive relationship undermines her confidence, worthiness, growth or trust, makes her feel unstable or manipulated with shame. More women are empowering themselves to leave abusive relationships. Be real, would you want to stay if someone damaged you like this?
Short tempered guys don’t last longer in the relationship. So, keep calm and handle everything with a cool head above your shoulders.
Never let your girl feel that she lost her independence at the cost of being in a relationship with you.
Don’t even try to control her. Give her space she needs. Let her enjoy the independence she needs.
Giving her the feeling of being worthless
Guys who make their girl feel less worthy don’t deserve to have any girl!
Don’t count her mistakes and tell her she can’t do anything right.
Never ever compare your girlfriend with other girl.
Pushing her to commit
Don’t push her for the commitment. Give her time to think. If you force her, she is eventually going to feel under pressure and rather break up than commit.
One of the big differences between friends with benefits and being a couple is to support each other in all kinds of life circumstances. If she can’t count on you it will tremendously decrease her believe in your relationship.
Not supporting her
Support her ideas and plans. She might have something useful and interesting.
Not helping in the household
Don’t leave the entire burden to your girl. Share some household responsibilities.
Expecting things you don’t do yourself
Don’t tell her to compromise and sacrifice for the relationship. Do your part too.
Not respecting her friends and family
Respect your girl’s family and friends. You’ll get plus points for that.
Emotional intimacy is as important as physical intimacy. Not being satisfied emotionally is a big reason for women to break up. Try to show your passionate and romantic side a little more. Rekindle the spark and let your girlfriend feel your love again.
Women break up because the relationship lost its charm and all that is left is boring for her.
Not having date nights
At least one day a week you should make time to make something romantic or exiting with her. Write down some date ideas and try out something new.
Not laughing together
A little fun and humor is always appreciated by the girls.
Not appreciating her funny side
If she tells a joke, and it’s good, laugh it off or get ready to face her ignorance.
Not suprising your girlfriend
Women love surpises, it creates all kinds of happy emotions inside of her.
Not being passionate about her
She wants to feel your passion for her and if she doesn’t feel that connection, she will step despite the ties.
Being emotionally unavailable
Women leave because they feel their men is not present even if she loves you and you have children. She really wants you to show that you feel her. Being absent-minded might mean you’re taking her for granted.
Forgetting her wishes
If you usually forget the tasks she tells you to do; you are actually getting ready to be dumped!
Treating her like a child
Even if she’s some years younger than you, don’t treat your girlfriend like a little girl who doesn’t know or can’t do anything by herself. In a funny way this can be flirty and some girls with daddy issues are attracted to men who replace the father figure, but don’t do it all the time if you want to have a healthy relationship.
Tell her how beautiful she is, if you are not creative, here are 50 cute things to say to your girlfriend.
No future plans
The realization of her never being your wife especially when her heart is set on it can push a woman away forever.
No romantic gifts
One of the best ways to show your appreciation for her is a suprise with romantic gifts for her.
Not doing anything for her
If you are not a man of words and you don’t have money for romantic gifts, here are 10 cute things to do for your girlfriend.
Not taking the relationship serious
Let your her feel the passion to stay with you her whole life and try to achieve the long-term goals.
Turn it around before it’s too late, most of the reasons for break ups are very similar for most couples and if you truly love her, it’s time to put some work into your relationship. The following two articles will help you re-connect and spark emotions in her so that she feels loved and appreciated.
– How to make your Girlfriend want you more
– How to make your Girlfriend feel special
Being too nice
Besides being a bad boyfriend there is another extreme which is also the reason why many couples break up. Some women especially ones with high self esteem are able to appreciate a partner who is very nice to them. However, if your girlfriend has a low self esteem and you are acting too nice, she will loose respect for you and end the relationship. The reason is that she doesn’t feel like she deserves to be threated so nicely and is someone does this it means he has a lower status than her.
This is a real life example of girlfriend who is explaining why she broke up with her ex-boyfriend because he was being too nice and unmanly for her.
Doing everything for her without expecting anything in return
In the 5 months together, he did so many sweet things for her like sending a delivery man with cookies to her workplace, made dinner most of the time, drove her everywhere… you know that stuff. She liked it, on one hand, she often felt happy and appreciated, but she asked herself why is he doing all this to her. She does nothing for him and didn’t even earn this kindness in her opinion. Selfless love might be sweet, but it feels for her, as if he needs to work for getting her to love him back.
Not being a challenge
He was no challenge at all, right from the beginning he offered her his whole heart and did everything. She had him already, that was boring and felt like he isn’t a great deal, because the really attractive men have options and are not so easy to get.
Not having an own opinion
“He was always OKAY with everything, I hate that so much, it’s like he doesn’t have an own opinion” she said. It’s even worse, because what she didn’t say was that IF he has an opinion, he values his own opinion so low that he doesn’t even tell it to her. There is nothing she can orientate herself on, she feels alone because she needs to make every decision herself.
Being predictable and boring
He was always happy and friendly, whatever she did, he looked at her like a puppy looks to its mother. There was absolutely no danger, nothing exciting, nothing new, every time the same old boring predictable behavior.
Being afraid to argue with her
“He was slick like an eel, there where no corners, nothing hard on him, where you can rub.” Every time she tried, to fight with him, he did all he could to not get into any arguments with her. Yes, she TRIED to fight with him, woman do this often if they don’t have enough emotional stimulation. They want to give you the chance to show that you have some balls.
Letting her disrespect you
Balls that show confidence in himself, so that he can fire back if she argues with him. When she notices that he has no balls, she starts disrespecting him, but not because she is a mean person. Woman do this to test how qualified you are to lead her through life and there is no better way to find this out, than to test you. Whenever she did something disrespectful, he did not get mad at all. Some times she even apologized to him, but his answer was “That’s okay, don’t worry “. She said “How can this be okay for you???”.
Giving up everything for her
After her respect and attraction for him dropped to zero, she gave him all kinds of lies (“I’ve got my period”) to not sleep with him. But when the attraction drops, woman not only stop having sex with you, they also don’t want see you. She had a hard time telling him, that she doesn’t want to see him ever again, she tried to find another reason so she doesn’t hurt him with the truth.