Cliché as it may seem, it is very safe to say that no man is an island. After countless first dates and constant night-outs, we eventually get tired of putting ourselves out there and wish that she will be “the one”. At the end of the day, perhaps what we are yearning for is to have someone who will be a constant part of our lives, day-in and day-out.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t come easy. One tricky part of the dating cycle is knowing when to transition from casually going out and getting to know each other to officially being in a relationship.
Here are 15 signs that can help you determine whether the woman that you’re currently seeing is a keeper who is worthy of your time and efforts.
1. She loves and accepts you for who you are
Love means taking everything in – the good, the bad, and the unknown. Being with someone who accepts you for who you are will make you more comfortable and at ease to show your true personality. Like any normal human being, we all have flaws. And being with a loving woman means being respected despite the negative traits that you possess. An ideal partner would never try to change you forcibly just to comply with a specific set of standards. Furthermore, being with a woman whom you can be crazy with, without the fear of being judged or frowned upon, is a telltale sign of being with someone for keeps.
2. You seriously think she’s cool and funny
If you cannot state a single non-physical attribute when asked why you love a person, you might probably be just infatuated or in love with the idea of having a constant companion. Good looks fade, but a great sense of humor will surely stand the test of time. A great sense of humor is a breath of fresh air, and a good-natured person will surely be able to see the good in every situation. Sharing the same set of interests and life perspectives helps a lot in building a strong foundation for a relationship. Spending long hours simply hanging out and talking to the woman that you’re currently dating is one indicator that she’s girlfriend material.
3. She communicates openly
Like a mature and independent woman, she is not afraid to speak her mind. She shares her thoughts and emotions with you and does not expect you to read her mind without the need for her to say anything. A good partner must have enough guts always to be truthful without feeling the need to sugarcoat every single thing just to make you feel good for all the wrong reasons. Moreover, she is matured enough to know that playing mind games and doing things just to make her partner jealous is a thing of the past and is counterproductive to a relationship.
4. She carries herself well
A confident woman simply goes to show that she embraces, and she fully accepts herself. Being with someone who loathes herself can be very draining. You don’t want to spend most of your time to reassuring her constantly that she’s pretty, intelligent or in any other way enough for you. A confident woman is not an attention-whore who seeks validation for every single thing. Overall, her feminine demeanor also includes dressing up decently, without ever feeling the need to dress in extra tight, shiny, and skimpy clothes just to attract attention.
5. She respects your faith, family, and friends
You might try to rationalize this on the earlier phases, but this will surely lead to more complications down the road. In a relationship, these are the three Fs that are non-negotiable. A relationship must be built on a strong foundation, and respecting each other’s beliefs plays a role of paramount importance in a smooth-sailing relationship. Possessing the same set of values as you do, a woman is definitely girlfriend material if she gains the respect and approval of your family and friends.
6. You have awesome chemistry.
Life is too short to settle for mediocrity. Having chemistry with another person doesn’t end with physical attraction. To make your relationship last long, you must be able to understand one another in a deeper sense. Your thought patterns and personalities must complement each other and seamlessly mesh together, which also includes having the same level of sex drive (libido) as one another.
7. She has a positive outlook on life
Good looks fade, but a happy disposition will surely stand the test of time. Positivity in times of hardships and challenges is a breath of fresh air, and a good-natured person will surely be able to see the good in every situation. Positivity also includes being drama-free and veering away from heated arguments and confrontation. At the end of the day, what matters in your relationship is that you are both happy in each other’s arms.
8. She is selfless and compassionate towards others
How women treat others is a reflection of how they see themselves. Treating others with utmost selflessness simply goes to show that she acknowledges the fact that every single person has his needs and takes these needs into consideration.
9. She lets you take the lead and supports you all the way
She knows that letting you take the lead would make you feel more like the man in the relationship. She also knows that all men want significant accomplishments in life to get the feeling of purpose. A woman who is girlfriend material must be the very first person to push you towards your goals, especially in crucial moments where self-doubt seems to prevail.
10. She is a very nurturing person
You and your partner should be each other’s refuge or haven. Being with someone who is very caring and nurturing would make you feel special and loved in simple yet very meaningful ways such as cooking for you or taking care of you after a stressful day at work.
11. She is responsible
Before venturing into a new relationship, you must also see to it that she is dependable and someone that you can count on. Moreover, she knows how to handle her finances responsibly and manage money well. An ideal partner should not also be materialistic, and knows the importance of being practical versus spending all her savings in activities such as excessive shopping.
12. She is practical and smart
This does not solely pertain to formal education. An ideal partner should be someone who is street-smart and creative enough to come up with solutions, should you encounter hardships and issues during the course of your relationship.
13. She thinks on a long-term basis
Committing to a relationship means making plans not only for the immediate future, but for something concrete and long-term. Just like you, an ideal partner should also be able to think on a long-term basis and see a future together with you.
14. She knows how to take good care of herself
How a person takes care of her overall well-being is also a reflection of how well she regards herself. She knows that an ideal partnership should also involve individuals at their best, including their physical health condition. A woman who’s girlfriend material keeps herself fit and healthy by eating healthy, working out, and veering away from the party girl lifestyle which might involve alcohol, or worse, drugs. She must also encourage you to adopt a healthy lifestyle as well and engage in various physical activities as a couple.
15. She flirts only with you
It’s such a pleasure to have a friendly and easygoing girlfriend who exerts effort in getting along with your friends. Cliché as it may seem, there is a very thin line between being friendly and being flirty. Watch your back if she makes too much of an effort with another man in your life. For one reason or another, she must never flirt with all men that she meets along the way.
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16. She has fully recovered from her past heartbreaks
This does not mean that she and her exes are the best of friends. Simply put, a woman must be able to be whole and completely healed from all the pain that she experienced in the past before venturing in a new relationship.
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17. She isn’t freaking out about your past
Eventually, the two of you would reach a point where you are comfortable enough to discuss each other’s pasts. A mature woman understands that your past led you to who you are now
18. She gives you enough room to breathe
A woman who does not cling too much and understands that you both need to spend some time away from each other in order to flourish as individuals and make an even greater contribution to your relationship.
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19. She isn’t your usual type
Your exes are there for a reason. What good would it bring to date the same type of people over and over again? If the woman you are dating was able to break the mold, then she is well worth your time.
20. She is brave enough to loosen up and be crazy once in a while
Loosening up is a surefire way to determine confidence. She should not be overly self-conscious to the point that she will be afraid to try new things, simply because other people might take it against her.
21. She loves deeply
Last, but definitely not the least, consider starting a relationship with a woman who is not resentful and forgiving for small mistakes. She knows for a fact that no relationship is perfect, and a couple might encounter several bumps along the way and these will make a relationship much stronger. Despite these challenges, she is still grateful that you get to surpass these roadblocks together as a couple.
Your girlfriend will be the person who you spend most of your time with, so it’s very important to choose wisely. It’s nearly impossible to find someone who fulfills all of the points that I’ve mentioned above. This article should give you a direction and guide you to finding the perfect match for you. Don’t make the mistake to settle for less only to fill a void, because you feel lonely. Pick the things that you value the most and don’t give up until you find a girl who fits you.
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