Ways to Get Her In the Mood

[himage] “I’ll make love to you… Like you want me to… And I’ll hold you tight… Baby, all through the night… I’ll make love to you!” Cue the music and dim the lights. Sing it, baby! Most likely you’re tapping your foot or singing along in your head (or maybe even out loud), aren’t ya? Who doesn’t love Boys II Men’s sexy and soulful rendition of “I’ll make Love to You,” the most mainstream ‘get her in the mood’ theme song for the male species across America. Most men would happily make love to their wife or girlfriend on cue, but there’s just one problem, guys. You’re only hearing the chorus. Sure, when we sing it, we all bellow out the best line, “I’ll make love to you,” (because wow, no lie, it’s hot) but while it’s the most catchy phrase of the song, the lyrics are where the ground work is laid for you to actually ‘get lucky.’ Capisce? So, gentlemen, let’s take a listen to the three lines of the song that your leading ladies are longing for you to hear.

Pour the wine, light the fire, Girl your wish is my command.

Okay, so when was the last time you ‘set the mood’ to get her in the mood. Whether your woman admits it or not, she wants to be romanced and wow-ed. While you don’t have to break your bank to lavish her in diamonds and pearls, a little thought can go a long way. So, think about the last time you actually did something for her (and buying her stringy lingerie that got you all hot and bothered doesn’t count). Women remember the little details (like every time you’ve left the toilet seat up and forgotten to take out the trash), so give her some spicy samples of your sexy self. Remember, it’s the little things that will melt her heart, so don’t feel obligated to buy all two dozen roses (unless the mood strikes you). A single, long stem rose speaks wonders. Pour a good bottle of wine, light some scented candles, pack a picnic, draw a steamy bubble bath, write a seductive note, send an “I love you text,” or pick up a heart stopping  chocolaty dessert. Making love starts with an emotional connection for a woman, so (depending on how quickly you’re hoping to board the love train) begin the day or week with one of these little romantic gestures (or your own master creation). Be thoughtful and sincere, as you are paving the rose petal path to the bedroom.

Girl relax, let’s go slow, I ain’t got nowhere to go.

Bingo! Boy II Men definitely does not steer us wrong on this one. Timing is everything when you’re striving for bedroom bliss. The biggest mistake most men make is trying to rush into sex or squeeze it into a fifteen minute time slot, making it feel more like an apathetic appointment than a romantic rendezvous. If you want to get physical, then reserve her some of your time (just as you would for a good workout or football game with your boys). Go slow. Ask about her day and actually listen to her answer (don’t just smile and nod while thinking, “Gosh, I hope this helps me get lucky!”). Eye contact and sincerity will jumpstart the heart pounding, tingling response that you’re hoping for. Then it’s time to slam it into “foreplay” gear. Hold her. Kiss her. Caress her. Be soft, gentle, and sincere. Even if you have eight hundred other things on your plate, give her first dibs on your time, and it will definitely be time well spent.

I made plans to be with you, Girl whatever you ask me you know I can do.

Plans? Right now some of you are thinking, that can’t really be in the song, can it? But yes, it certainly is because Boys II Men got the memo that women like a man with vision and initiative. She wants you to take charge, and plan for romance. Even if it’s as simple as a candlelit dinner, bath, glass of wine, or massage, she wants to know that you planned ahead for this flirtatious affair rather than it just being a hormonal hiatus. While spontaneous sex can be hot and seductive, romantically planning for lovemaking is music to her emotions. So, plan for romance and listen to your goddess in the bedroom. In your all your passion, you may be missing her slyly insinuated but ravishing sexual desires. Ready to pounce, Tiger? The undeniably sexy words of “I’ll Make Love to You” have taken on a whole new meaning now. Time to strike from the chorus to the lyrics, seductively cranking your romance meter to ‘HOT!’ So, remember, her wish is your command. If you want to get her in the mood then create a mood of smoldering passion, fire, heat, and seduction. You want to be her ‘sugar and spice and everything nice (then NAUGHTY comes later)!’