An unfullfilled sex life is one of the reasons why women cheat. Besides that it leads to a lot of frustration, especially if you don’t feel confident in your manhood, if you can’t really satisfy your women anymore. It’s a hard cold fact that the longer you can last while having sex, the more enjoyment your woman is going to have – it’s as simple as that.
Women are built entirely different than us, and so you need to understand the differences in order to give her more pleasure. But then again, lasting longer will be a lot more enjoyable for you too. This article is going to get into a little more detail about the nuts and bolts of it so that you can last longer in bed.
Tip #1: Good Foreplay
Good foreplay is not slapping her ass and telling your woman that you can’t wait to bang her. Not usually, at least. Actually, sometimes, that’s perfectly fine to do, but that’s not the norm. Good foreplay starts a lot sooner than you realize, and can last all day long. It can start with a sexting message you send to her, and the conversation that ensues. It can be a look, or a touch at just the right time. It can start with a certain type of a smile or something that you say early in the day.
Women want a reason to have sex while men only want an excuse.
Women need a good amount of foreplay in order to get ready to have sex. The biggest sex organ in your body is your brain, not your penis. So use it. Tease her. Turn her on with texts or say something in person and see how she reacts. Play with her mind, and start the foreplay early.
What happens if you wait until you are ready to have sex? You may become frustrated because she may not be ready. You may frustrate her because you want to rush things. You may become frustrated with each other and totally ruin the mood.
So, start early. It is also the loving thing to do when you are in a relationship because it shows that you are thinking about her and her needs. Trust me – when you put the wants and needs of your woman ahead of your own, she will remember that and reward you at least 10 times more. Okay, maybe not 10 times, but you get my point.
Tip #2: Ladies First
One of the easiest ways to last longer has nothing to do with your mini-me. Rather, it has to do with warming up your woman first, and giving her what she needs. During this time, whether you have a hard on or not doesn’t really matter because you’re not going to be using it.
So, let go of the thought that all that is important is that you satisfy your own needs and ignore hers. Take the stress off of yourself and her too by satisfying her needs first. What do I mean by this? What I mean is to get her off first, and do it any way that she prefers – whether that be with oral or your own hand, or some other way.
You have to have really good foreplay in order to get her warmed up anyway. But after that, give her satisfaction first without penetrating her. This way, you won’t have to last nearly as long and she will be very well warmed up.
They don’t get tired like we do – instead, usually they get energized.
Most women can have multiple orgasms, they are a able to be a lot more sexually active than we can be. She could have sex with 20 guys in one night – but what guy could satisfy 20 girls in one night? So, you’re dealing with a being who can easily spend a lot more time in the act than you can. Get used to it.
Tip #3: Edging
Edging is the act of masturbating until you get close to coming, otherwise known as getting close to the “edge,” and then stopping until you are no longer close to coming.
For a lot of guys, this seems crazy. Isn’t that a tortuous thing to do to yourself? The only reason why it may seem tortuous is because you have gotten way too much into the bad habit of jerking off and the coming as soon as you can. This is understandable because most of us had to do it in a fast and furious way in order to not get caught by our moms or brothers or sisters, etc.
But you’re a big boy now. That habit of masturbating and coming quickly can mess with your sex life. There is a way to get past it, and that’s called edging. Doctors use something called a SUDS scale, or a standard unit of distress scale. 0 stands for no pain. 10 stands for the ultimate worst pain you have ever had. In our scale, 10 represents the moment your baby batter is leaving your manhood.
To edge, masturbate until you get to a 7, and the stop. Let the urge to cum come down to a 4 or 5 and start to masturbate again. The next time, let it get to an 8 on the scale. Repeat this until you get to a 9, and then do it one more time and finally come. This will train you to have more control over when you ejaculate.
Tip #4: De-stress and Meditation
One of the biggest problems that people face is stress. As matter of fact, doctors say that 85% of all illness is related to stress. If you are stressed out before having sex, the chances are that the sexual session is not going to be very good.
The best ways to de-stress and to last longer in bed is to meditate every day. There are a lot of different styles of meditation such as Qigong, Transcendental Meditation, Compassion Meditation, Awareness Meditation, and more. Check them out on your own and see which one resonates with you the most.
The point is that if you want to last longer in bed, you’ve got to let go of stress. Meditation is one of the best things to do in order to de-stress yourself.
Tip #5: Exercise
One of the other main important factors to lasting longer is exercise, but not just any type of exercise.
Focus on exercise that builds muscle, because that helps to boost testosterone. This means lifting heavy weight, and doing fewer reps – like 6 to 8 reps with heavy weights.
Also, do complex lifts, which is something like squats. A complex lift engages multiple major muscles at once. That will get your testosterone boosted quickly in no time.
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